Nobody thinks about their parents-in-laws without dread. They’re always there, giving (often unsolicited) advice when you two are still in the courtship stage, forcing you to find the best catering in Manila for your wedding reception that matches their standards, and appearing in that same wedding reception and giving encouraging (sometimes subtly threatening) speeches. Once you marry your partner, they’ll be permanently stuck in your life. And to get along with them, you need to obey certain laws. Here are a few to get you started
Honor Your Parents-in-Law
It means being polite to them, even when they sometimes seemed rude to you. It also means respecting them and considering any advice they give you about your marriage. Parents still know best, even if you’re a grown-up. This doesn’t mean you have to do everything they say; there are some things you and your partner have to figure out on your own. And if you’re still thinking of being mean to your in-laws, imagine how you’d feel if you see your spouse acts the same towards your parents.
Accept Your Differences
Her father likes basketball while you prefer soccer. His mom loves vanilla ice cream whereas you like chocolate-flavored. It doesn’t matter. A lot of couples who have nothing in common can still have a successful and happy married life. That same principle applies in getting along with your in-laws and even your own parents. Just because their beliefs and principles are different from yours doesn’t mean they’re bad and you’re not. You guys are simply different from each other.
Make an Effort
Since your parents-in-laws and you are in it for the long haul, you might as well try to get along with them. Get to know them and find out what they like or what they don’t. Spend time with them and do simple things like the laundry or chores or watching series together. You’d surprised how much it helps! A little warning, though: Do it without being too annoying or overbearing. Otherwise, you might turn them off instead of build up the rapport you need.
Kissing isn’t the best thing you can do with your lips, you know; communicating is! Besides, you can’t be all mushy with your parents-in-laws. Gross! Instead, have a proper conversation with them. No false courtesies, no non-sense, just plain old real talk. Also remember that you only have one mouth but two ears. So listen first before speaking.
Give Them Grandchildren
Giving your in-laws a kid to spoil is the best thing you can do to make them happy. That’s because by having a child, you’re giving them grandparent privileges. It means they’ll have someone other than you and your partner to focus their energy on. And it’s amazing how much a baby’s smile can endear you to your partner’s parents.
A wise man once said that when you marry someone, you marry the entire family too. That’s so true in many ways, especially when talking about the parents. Like it or not, your in-laws are here to stay. Just deal with it! Besides, they do want to be friends with you, you just have to work really hard at it.